You, Me, and We

They don’t tell you about the major life shift that happens when acquiring a relationship when you are in your 30s. The early days, for me, were an adjustment and I still find myself settling in, seven months later. The first time he stayed over, he asked which side of the bed I preferred. My... Continue Reading →

The Bros of Santa Barbara

After many hours of research on the beaches of Santa Barbara, my friend and I realized we love the “bros”! You may ask, “What is a ‘bro’?” or “Isn’t it ‘brah’?” Good questions. According to local sources, a “bro” is used to describe a person (i.e., “Yeah, Chris has been my bro since I’m three... Continue Reading →

A Test of Faith(fulness)

Words are heavy. In the last column, I wrote “life will continue to put obstacles or tests in our path to make sure we want to continue in the direction we are heading.” I imagine it was a way of establishing strength on the subject. A type of insurance for the future. Boy, did I... Continue Reading →

Big Sir.

In all the scenarios I’ve created in my head, I never thought we’d find ourselves naked in the hot springs off the cliffs of Big Sur. It had been almost three and half years since we met. At that time, I was mid-adventure on Highway 1, drawn toward a fragmented sign that read “Library” laying... Continue Reading →

Trimming The Fat

Staring down at the contents of my closet and drawers made me realize that most of the stuff I’ve been holding on to served little purpose in my life. The catalyst was my mom. She had mentioned the best-seller, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo.... Continue Reading →

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